Top Ten Things You Can Say To Sabotage Your Future

Top Ten Things You Can Say To Sabotage Your Future
By Diana Williams

What are you saying about your future? Do you have a positive outlook full of hope or are you discouraged and feeling as if you are forsaken? Did you know that there is power in the spoken word to bless or curse, build up or tear down and encourage or discourage? When any person opens his or her mouth to speak, the person who hears it loudest is the person speaking. It resonates from within. In other words, you have the power to SPEAK life or SPEAK death right into your very soul! With each spoken word, the things necessary to produce what is said begin to materialize.

The Bible says, "Words can bring death or life! Talk too much, and you will eat everything you say" (Proverbs 18:21 CEV).

The way to produce beneficial occurrences in life is to talk them into existence. The way to court disaster for yourself is speaking rashly and negatively about your future. Even idle works said in jest can produce damaging results. Your words attract what is spoken as well as repel the opposite forces. In other words, it is extremely difficult to get good vibes into a place where negative talking occurs. It is also dangerous to your future when you say destructive things about any portion of your life.

Perhaps you need to change the way you speak about yourself. Here's my list of the top ten off-putting things you can unwittingly verbalize to ruin you chances for a happy life.

10. "It's too late for me."- Nonsense! It is never too late while there is still breath in your body. The decisions you make today can start the process of change for a brighter future. Don't allow your speech to trap you in a rut repeating the same mistakes.

9. "I can't change the way I am." - Everyone can change. It starts with making up your mind that you need to change. Don't fool yourself into thinking that in all situations everyone must accept you just as you are.

8. "I hate my body." - The Bible declares that you are fearfully and wonderfully made. (Psalm 139:14) When you can respect and appreciate that truth about yourself the things you want to change about your body becomes easier to address. (Ailments, poor health, weight loss, etc.)

7. "I can't stand my job." - Perhaps the job can't stand you either. No one enjoys being around bitter, depressing and unhappy people. It is also difficult to get things accomplished amidst contention and poor morale. Enjoyable people attract energetic people eager to help them get the job done.

6. "My family is worthless." - Did you know that you are in your family? If your family is worthless are you also saying there is no redeeming value within you? Whenever you magnify the negative, it becomes the most dominant thing you see. Improve your family relationships with the helpful words you speak.

5. "I don't need any friends." - The Bible exhorts that to have friends one must be friendly-dependable, kind, loyal, integral. (Proverbs18:24) A good friend in the right place at the right time can mean the difference between something going in your favor or not.

4. "I will never get out of debt." - You must believe it to achieve it. Don't allow frustration over bills or credit ratings to cause you to give up on building your personal wealth. Poor financial decisions and practices in the past can be overcome with the willingness to work at eradicating debt and establishing fiduciary integrity.

3. "My spouse is ruining our marriage." - Are you the perfect husband or wife doing everything right? Truthfully, no one is. We all make mistakes and have room for improvement. Like a vicious cycle, your spouse could claim that their actions will change when you stop a certain behavior and vice versa. So end the cycle of blame by concentrating on improving your behavior and reactions. Don't be foolish by tearing down your marriage with harmful words.

2. "My life will never get better." - Be encouraged! Don't let fear and pessimism rule in your heart. Your life can improve today with the choices you make. Change your outlook with GOD's help to create something brand new in your life.

1. "I don't believe GOD loves me." - Believe that GOD loves you lavishly and eternally. "GOD told them, 'I've never quit loving you and never will. Expect love, love, and more love! And so now I'll start over with you and build you up again,'" (Jeremiah 31:3-4a, MSG).

Settle it today in your heart and let GOD help you. Stop sabotaging your future by speaking injurious things about yourself and start using your words wisely to speak forth something beautiful in your life.

Personal Change - The Secret To A Stress Free Life

Personal Change - The Secret To A Stress Free Life
By Mel Avila Alarilla

We are not happy with our situation in life so we change it. We are not happy with our work so we resign and look for another job. We are not happy with our spouses so we divorce them and look for new ones. We are not happy with our children so we try to distance ourselves as much as possible from them. When we are confronted with situations we do not like, we immediately change them. But in the process, does that make us happy? No, it only makes us happy at first, but later on, the same symptoms reappear, and we are back to square one. Then we wallow again in stress and unhappiness.

Why? Because changing the situation is never the solution. Remember, we cannot change another person. That person will change because he likes to change, and not because we caused him to change. We cannot always change the stressful situations in our lives either.

Have we not noticed that life is never constant. It is always a case of ebb and flow. One day you are up there in the clouds in happiness, and the next day, you are down there in the dumps with a desperate situation that threatens to tear you apart. Why? Because life is like that. The only person who is truly happy and joyful in life, irregardless of his external situations, is the person who has learned to make a personal change within himself. He accepts whatever fate hands down to him. He can live in extreme equanimity through the good days as well as through the bad days. He does not attempt to change people, he adjust to them. He does not attempt to change situations, he rides them through. He is like the bamboo tree that bends down when a strong storm is passing. Then he regains his full stature as soon as the storm is gone. The sturdiest trees are those that survived the fiercest storms in life.

But before we can become like this, we must have a very strong anchor in life. One who will never ever change or leave us in times of troubles or trials. That strong anchor is God. If we trust Him as an all merciful Father who will provide us with all our needs in life, then we can walk securely through life with nary a fear or doubt. We know that our temporary trouble will not last long and we will surely see the light of day at the end of a long tunnel.

Love Affirmations

Love Affirmations

- By Jeff Staniforth

Love is that ethereal experience that makes us feel completely alive. Where every sense is heightened, every emotion is magnified, our everyday reality is transcended, and life seems worthwhile. Love is the ultimate nourishment of the soul.

It is said that the entire array of human needs is rooted in our need for love. Our yearning for fame, fortune and material things all boil down to our need to be acknowledged, respected, admired - and above all, loved.

No truer words have been said than those that George Sand wrote: "There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved."

The good news is, you can develop the skill to live a full and joyful life, enhanced by love -- and experience all the profound manifestations that love brings. Employing positive, loving affirmations will help you develop that skill.

Following are some loving affirmations you can use to attract, embody, give, receive and reap the rewards of love. As I've mentioned in the previous issue of this newsletter, choose the affirmations that feel appropriate to you -- those that resonate with you, or strike an emotional chord.

It is important that the words feel comfortable to you and are in line with who you are. Feel free to create one for your specific need by substituting other words that have special meaning to you:

* I am a radiant being filled with light and love.
* I love and accept myself exactly as I am.
* I now express love to all those I meet.
* I am a radiating center of divine love.
* Divine love is working through me now.
* I bathe in the unconditional love of my Creator
* Love radiates from me at all times.
* I love myself completely.
* Love comes to me easily and effortlessly.
* I give and receive love easily and joyfully.
* Others love me easily and joyfully.
* I now feel loved and appreciated by my parents, my friends.
* I express love freely
* As I give love, I am instantly supplied with more.
* I radiate love to all persons and places and things.
* People are just waiting to love me, and I allow them.
* I breathe in universal love.
* I attract loving, beautiful people into my life.
* I always deserve love.
* I am attracting loving relationships into my life.
* I project love to everyone I meet.
* I love and approve of myself.

The last affirmation in the above list, "I love and approve of myself," is one that Louise Hay (healer, minister, and author of "Heal Your Body" and many other life-transforming books) recommends.

TIP: There is a little-known technique for taking the power of affirmations to the highest level -- so that manifesting your desires becomes *automatic* and easy.

It is by combining affirmations with 7 of the most powerful manifestation technologies - visualization, alpha sound technology, subliminal technology, sentence completion, assignment writing/goal setting and whole brain wave synchronization.

How to Think Positive and Stop Negative Thinking

How to Think Positive and Stop Negative Thinking

By Greg Mee

First off, it's going to take some practice. If you spend the first 35 years of your life cutting yourself down at every opportunity you're not going to turn that around in a minute or day or a week. But it can be done if you give it more time. Like exercise, if you want to gain and maintain your results you have to keep it up.

Think of it this way: Don't think of the white polar bear.

Ever notice that when you're given an instruction not to do something that doing it is what immediately pops into mind?

Here's an example: We went on a canoe trip once. Low water, with a few stumps and deadfalls to bump into. And bump into them we did, until we realized something. We learned that if we looked where we wanted to go and paddled that way, that we usually missed that stump. If we thought about the stump and tried to paddle away from it then we usually hit it.

See the difference? So how do you not think about the white polar bear? You think about some other thing and focus on that other thing.

One of the tools to help this along is the idea of Positive Affirmations. You are going to reprogram your brain by feeding it positive thoughts and positive affirmations. Over and over again. You're going to stop the negative thinking by thinking about other things. Instead. You're going to fill your thinking with positive affirmations and positive thoughts.

Try this on for size: Every time, and that means every time, the negative thoughts come around you are going to say, "I like myself" out loud, ten times in a row. For many of us this will feel really weird, at first. Every time the negative thoughts come around think about some positive version of the cause of those thoughts and really concentrate on making those thoughts positive. If you slip into the negative, don't stress it, just get back to the positive thoughts. It's like falling off a bike. Just get right back on a work on your riding. eventually it takes a lot to get you to fall off.

If the negative thinking is deeply ingrained you might find it very difficult to make headway, at first. When you first start working with affirmations, focus on thinking about things or situations that instantly fill you with optimism and good feeling. Work of the easier stuff first, in other words.

One more thing: even if you're thinking positive thoughts it's very important to believe in the possibility of those thoughts coming true. For example, if you grow up in a situation where money is always really tight then any affirmations which have to do with earning lots of money will most likely be a waste of time. Pick something you can believe in.

Perhaps, for your initial affirmation practice, pick something that's far away from the core issue. If you've been raised in that tight money situation you may have some deep core beliefs about money that will be hard to uproot. They may even undermine your thinking.

Perhaps relationships might be a good place to start. Or smaller money issues, such as focusing on what want to do in order to get a small raise. If relationships are the tough issue, as they are for many of us, then perhaps affirmations regarding the job or the exercise program or just building a happier you will be a better place to start.

So what's the take away from all of this?

Don't stop and don't quit, ever. Once you start practicing your positive affirmations keep it going. The affirmations will build the positive thinking and you'll start to forget about the negative thinking. And wouldn't that be a nice place to be?

Take control and think yourself to where you want to be.